Other Factors In Making A Decision On Your Sexual Orientation
Other factors to consider, which may influence your decision, besides just attraction.
One other main factor you must consider when deciding your own sexual orientation is your environment around you. How have you been raised? How have other people influenced or trained you to act or behave? In most cases, your career will have asked you about a girlfriend or boyfriend of the opposite sex to yourself, teased you about having one. Spoken to you about what kind of family you want to have, how many children and have influenced you by doing this to make you think and feel like you must have a girlfriend/boyfriend get married, have children and own a house together. The community around you will also tend to do this, such as teachers, work mates and friends.
Because this is happening, it tends to “Brain Wash” you into thinking this is the way it must be. You might as well be fighting with yourself when trying to figure out your sexual orientation, because until you realise that this is happening, and you figure a way of moving past it yourself, it is going to be very difficult to decide yourself exactly what sexual orientation you identify yourself as.
Sometimes - because of pressure from our peers or society in general - sexual desires and feelings will be suppressed as we try to will ourselves to have other, 'normal' or more accepted sexual feelings. For many, these suppressed feelings can cause pressures that become problematic - forcing some to avoid any sexual encounters, or to lie to a partner (and themselves). Suppressed feelings can lead to anonymous sexual relations with a person of the same sex while maintaining a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
Because this is happening, it tends to “Brain Wash” you into thinking this is the way it must be. You might as well be fighting with yourself when trying to figure out your sexual orientation, because until you realise that this is happening, and you figure a way of moving past it yourself, it is going to be very difficult to decide yourself exactly what sexual orientation you identify yourself as.
Sometimes - because of pressure from our peers or society in general - sexual desires and feelings will be suppressed as we try to will ourselves to have other, 'normal' or more accepted sexual feelings. For many, these suppressed feelings can cause pressures that become problematic - forcing some to avoid any sexual encounters, or to lie to a partner (and themselves). Suppressed feelings can lead to anonymous sexual relations with a person of the same sex while maintaining a relationship with someone of the opposite sex.
